Words to Live By in a Healthy Relationship: 'COMMUNICATION'
Word of the Day: “Communication”…. 1. exchange of information: 4. rapport: a sense of mutual understanding and sympathy. A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger (Proverbs 15:1). • Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing (Proverbs 12:18).
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen (Ephesians 4:29).
What do you call a relationship with no communication? A disaster!!!
Although we speak the same language, in relationships, it can be quite challenging to get our point across. Communication is much more than just putting words together….it’s also the plate of emotion that the words are served on. Communication requires an “art of delivery”….how you say what you say will determine if your partner is receptive to it or not.
It’s often been said that “honesty without compassion is brutality” and that’s where the “sympathy” part of the definition has to come in. Even though what you say may be the truth….if you’re delivering it like a brick being thrown at your partner then good luck with getting your point across. Words should always be delivered as if you were giving a gift…. because everyone loves to receive gifts.
Another major factor causing conflict in relationships is a total lack of communication. As the definition states, communication is an “exchange of information”….the whole “he should know”, “she should know”, mindreading thing doesn’t work. If you want someone to know exactly how you feel, I suggest you don’t insinuate or beat around the bush; just tell them…. but remember the “art of delivery”.
The challenge in communicating usually stems from the simple fact that we all don’t communicate the same way. How we were raised and what we were exposed to as children plays a major role in how we communicate today. But even though we have different methods of communicating, the joy of the journey is in finding that common ground with your partner. That’s when you know you are growing as a couple.
So always communicate with your partner in a loving and caring way and you will live life together like a Complete Chocolate Couple.
Steven Anthony King
Certified Relationship Coach
Complete Chocolate Couples Inc.