Words to Live By in a Healthy Relationship: 'Responsibility'
Word of the Day: “Responsibility”…. ” 1. accountability: the state, fact, or position of being accountable to somebody or for something”
“If it's never our fault, we can't take responsibility for it. If we can't take responsibility for it, we'll always be its victim.” - Richard Bach
One of the most common mistakes that people make when there is conflict in a relationship is to look to the other person as being the cause of the dilemma. It’s always easier to point out someone else’s faults rather than our own. But by doing this, we cheat ourselves out of an opportunity to truly get to the root of the part that we play in the conflict.
Call it denial….call it refusal….whatever you call it, continuously placing blame on your partner stunts the growth of the relationship. If you don’t look at the part you play in a conflict and take responsibility for it, you’re most likely going to repeat the behavior that caused the conflict in the first place.
Taking responsibility for our actions is a sign of emotional maturity and it is a twofold process; we first need to own up to our part and secondly, we must “stop” the behavior.
We need to clean up our side of the street before we can point out how messy our partner’s side is.
So remember….we are “victims no more”!!! Take responsibility for your actions and you will live life with your partner like a Complete Chocolate Couple.
Live Long and Love Life!!!
Steven Anthony King
Certified Relationship Coach
Complete Chocolate Couples Inc.